Build Your Recovery Plan

Start where you are. Move forward together.

In Restoring Hope RCA, we understand that no two couples arrive at recovery the same way. Some are in crisis. Some have experience but feel stuck. Others are ready to grow but new to this program.

This is a 12-step, peer-led fellowship - not therapy or counseling. We offer structure, shared experience, and a path forward for couples navigating sex addiction recovery together.

In Crisis & New to Recovery

If everything feels overwhelming right now - you’re not alone.

Crisis can look like:

  • Discovery or disclosure of behaviors

  • Intense emotional reactions (anger, panic, confusion)

  • Loss of trust or safety in the relationship

Right now, your goal is not to fix everything.
Your goal is stability and safety—one step at a time.

Start Here

1.Pause Major Decisions
Avoid big, permanent decisions in the first 24–72 hours. Emotions are high - clarity comes later.

2. Establish Immediate Boundaries
Create simple, clear agreements:

  • Physical / emotional space if needed

  • No further harm or acting out

  • Transparency with devices or communication (as appropriate)

3. Prioritize Individual Support
Each person should seek support:

  • Attend a 12-step meeting (individually if needed)

  • Reach out to a sponsor, mentor, or trusted peer

4. Limit Information Overload
You do not need every answer today. Focus on what helps you feel grounded.

5. Join an RCA Meeting (Even If You’re Not Ready)
You don’t have to speak. Just listening can bring clarity and relief.

SUMMARY

Focus: Stabilize and create safety

  • Pause major decisions (24–72 hours)

  • Set immediate boundaries (space, no harm, transparency)

  • Seek individual support (meetings, sponsor, peer)

  • Limit overwhelm - focus on today only

  • Attend an RCA meeting ASAP

Next Step: Attend a meeting within 24 hours